i asked a question yesterday and sought real comfort in the answers, so decided to ask another as i am devasted and my heart and soul is broken. My husband has decided to turn his back on our marriage and our 2 children because he says I am controlling.He said that he feels he cant buy a car magazine without me commenting on it. I dont believe this is true. I know I have questioned some things he buys but that is cause we have alot of debt and some months we couldnt afford it. Icant believe he wants to end it all over this. I have cried solidly for a month and he shows no affection. If i ask him if he wants me to go he gets mad and punches something. Icant talk or show emotion without him getting mad and pulls at his hair or hits his hands off each other really hard. 2 months ago he told me he loved me and could never leave me, this month he tells me to F off, that I am controlling and screams at me when I cry. Yet he wont leave. I am an emotional wreck and need help.
Why has my husband turned his back on me and tells me I am to blame?
You need to take your little ones and leave, even if it is just temporary, you need to show him you will not tolerate his violent behavior. Do you want him to lash out physically at you or your children? Chances are he may be very right about you being too controling, from HIS point of view. Both of you need counceling. But first protect yourself and your children.
Why has my husband turned his back on me and tells me I am to blame?
Is there someone else he is seeing on the side? Sounds to me like he is trying to ease his guilty consious by making you the one at fault. Even if he isnt, you cant live like this. Tell him if he is going to go then he needs to pack and go. If he is going to stay, you both go to counciling and work out whatever issues the two of you have. You cant keep going like this. I am so sorry you are going thru this. Hugs to you. Good Luck.
Why has my husband turned his back on me and tells me I am to blame?
He's telling you are to blame because he cannot accept responsibility for his own actions. I'm not saying it is all his fault either, there are two sides to everything. However, it sounds like you need to get out of that marriage, and get out now. That business with punching things and telling you to F off shows that he is repressing a violent urge, and sooner or later he will stop repressing it and punch you. Don't depend on him to leave, you need to get the kids and get out yourself, and don't go back.
Why has my husband turned his back on me and tells me I am to blame?
do you return the same words he does, i mean do you both tell each other to f-off and then regret it later, does he care that you cry or do you cry in front of him,you both obviously have issues that you need to take care of, for one material things and money are not worth the fight,goals are, have you set the goal to get out of depth, have you set a goal on how you want to live either miserable the rest of your life or happy, if he cant see you cry is because it hurts him to hurt you, he just does not know how to deal with his emotions and also yours at the same time, do you have any close friends or relatives that you both would not act like that in front of, if you do invite them over,let them be your backup and sit down and talk, the reason your gonna need the backup is to figure out if he has an anger problem and hes not going to freak out and hurt you ..
Why has my husband turned his back on me and tells me I am to blame?
There is no solution here.
Debts ruin a family's hope and stability. Debts are incurred because society creates so many ways to encourage people to spend beyond their means. But that doesn't mean the person in debt is without responsibility.
Your husband is so used to spending that he is totally scared of the situation. He doesn't see his way out so he is turning a blind eye on the situation. He is annoyed by anyone mentioning the problem. There is no difference between big debts and drug addiction.
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